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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Doom » Wed Nov 30, 2016 1:09 pm

Easier said than done.... It's not like they are not supportive of me, if I had said that, then I would be being plain ungrateful. Especially with all the troubles that my health caused during my childhood and the surgeries that I had. But they can be mean when they want to and manipulative too and turn things around and I am the bad guy... And lately I feel like everything that I do is wrong and that my presence bothers them and it hurts.

The lyrics that I have posted before hit the spot perfectl with this, they speak a lot for me
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Micky » Wed Nov 30, 2016 1:20 pm

The kid i had an issue with at school last week once again started an issue in class last wednesday. He was told by the dean of the school to apologize to everyone in the room for the outburst but last week came in and refused to apologize to anyone.

Then, when we were leaving the class he made a not so subtle remark about how ugly a girl in my class was, and that happened to be the girl he made fun of a few weeks ago with the stutter. She once again left the room crying, when frankly she shouldnt have because she is absolutely gorgeous.

A group of us went to the dean to report what happened, but we were met with "We will investigate", which basically means we could all go f ourselves :slam
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Lotha » Wed Nov 30, 2016 3:49 pm

Doom wrote:But they can be mean when they want to and manipulative too and turn things around and I am the bad guy... And lately I feel like everything that I do is wrong and that my presence bothers them and it hurts.


This right here is the important part. Don't let people gaslight you into thinking that you're the bad guy, crazy, too sensitive or whatever. Especially if they won't do anything to address how you are feeling.

I know it's easier said than done - been there, done that, never was "good enough" for my mom, whenever I tried to point out ANYTHING logical, she'd resort to "fine, it's all my fault" to make me feel guilty etc... Things like that mess with your head, I know.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Timotheus » Wed Nov 30, 2016 4:07 pm

It's a lot easier and healthier to have a good relationship with your family from a distance I think, especially if there are some issues. I can relate to your situation; the manipulation and the feeling that you're letting your family down. Looking back, becoming independent really was the turning point for me. Do stuff that makes you proud of yourself, and your family will be proud of you as well. It might take some time for them to get used to whatever you decide to do, but in the end it will be for the best.

If they don't, that's awful, but you can't live your life trying to please others, and I don't think extending your current situation will do any good anyway if that's the case.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do :)
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby SHEAKENBAKEN » Thu Dec 01, 2016 2:24 am

Hearing "Grandma got run over by a reindeer" almost daily on the radio at work really depresses me because its the first Christmas we've had since my grandma passed away earlier this year.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Doom » Thu Dec 01, 2016 10:49 am

Thank you guys for the words. I appreciate it. :)

Like I said before, they can be really mean and their words can cut really deep and when it's them both are against me is a lost battle right from the start.

I know that something has to be changed but I don't know exactly what to do, as there are many things going on and I try to help them because I know they need it...

It's just that even though if I tried to talk to them, it would be a waste of time and a call for a battle. Like Timo said, extending this situation wouldn't do anything good but I don't think that now is the right time with all the things that are going on.

Sorry if I'm rambling too much about this, it's just something that had been bothering me a lot lately (actually, it's something that I had been keeping to myself for a long time) and I don't know well how to express myself.

SHEAKENBAKEN wrote:Hearing "Grandma got run over by a reindeer" almost daily on the radio at work really depresses me because its the first Christmas we've had since my grandma passed away earlier this year.


I'm sorry to hear that, dude :(
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Lotha » Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:47 pm

Doom wrote:but I don't know exactly what to do


My best advice would be to move out as soon as you can if you haven't already.

SHEAKENBAKEN wrote:Hearing "Grandma got run over by a reindeer" almost daily on the radio at work really depresses me because its the first Christmas we've had since my grandma passed away earlier this year.


:( That's so sad. :hug :hug :hug
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby SHEAKENBAKEN » Fri Dec 02, 2016 11:10 am

Thanks you guys :hug

Getting notifications for threads that I've never even replied or been subscribed to is really annoying.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby SHEAKENBAKEN » Mon Dec 05, 2016 6:00 pm

FUCKING SNOW
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby gbruin » Tue Dec 06, 2016 12:01 am

Winter is coming, Shea.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Ryan » Tue Dec 06, 2016 1:12 am

the fact that i still go to reach for the phone to call my dad when i have a question about something house related, or work related, or just general advice. :( makes me sad and start crying.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby SHEAKENBAKEN » Tue Dec 06, 2016 1:43 am

Ryan wrote:the fact that i still go to reach for the phone to call my dad when i have a question about something house related, or work related, or just general advice. :( makes me sad and start crying.

:hug I sometimes still cant believe my grandmother is gone, yet she passed in March/April of this year. It sure does take some time getting used to their absence. Especially when it was so sudden.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Lotha » Tue Dec 06, 2016 3:44 am

It's been almost 5 years and I still have dreams where my Dad is alive. We talk, or have walks together, and when I wake up, it's hard for me to realize he's gone. I don't think I'll ever be used to it.

So sorry, Ryan :( :hug
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby SHEAKENBAKEN » Sat Dec 24, 2016 2:36 am

2 days before Christmas and I have absolutely no excitement. It's the first year the family has had Christmas without my Grandma after she passed away in February. And I feel like that's a large part in why I've been feeling so down this Christmas. I'm just glad I wont have to hear 'Grandma got run over by a reindeer' on the radio anymore come Tuesday when I go back to work.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Lotha » Sat Dec 24, 2016 4:18 am

You don't have to be happy and cheerful during the holidays. Sometimes you're down, the overall cheer of everyone just contrasts your feelings, and that's normal. Also perfectly okay.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby SHEAKENBAKEN » Sun Dec 25, 2016 8:35 pm

Rest In Peace, George Michael. Fuck off 2016. Just....Fuck off. :no
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby gbruin » Mon Dec 26, 2016 1:48 am

SHEAKENBAKEN wrote:Rest In Peace, George Michael. Fuck off 2016. Just....Fuck off. :no

No kidding. Another huge loss.

I know it makes no sense, but just 6 more days of this mess...
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Lotha » Tue Dec 27, 2016 6:33 am

So sad that he died. :/
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Ubik » Tue Dec 27, 2016 8:34 am

Lot of stuff coming out about his random acts of (unpublicised) kindness today. Makes me sad when people pass away without stuff like that being known, but he apparently didn't want to make it public. Class act.
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Re: What grinds your gears?

Postby Krissie » Tue Dec 27, 2016 2:18 pm

Fucking 2016 isn't done yet. RIP Princess Leia.


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